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The 12 Principles of Life Masteries


1. Walls of Opportunities

When a wall of challenge hits us in any area of our life, what do we do? When a door in life shuts in our face, what do we do? When we feel all is lost and there is no hope in life, what do we do? If we're seeking Life Masteries, we go around the wall to the right or to the left, we go over or under, or, if all else fails, we work with others to blow up the wall.

In every area of our life, we will have challenges (others may refer to these as problems) that occur on a daily basis. By embracing the challenges, we are empowered to use these challenges to become stronger individuals by growing in ways we never thought possible. Others may see the wall and become frustrated. We see the wall and think, "What a great opportunity to grow."

Others may say there is an easier road to take. We say, "The real reward will be to get past this challenge and see the big reward on the other side."

Others will see a problem and lose valuable time, energy, and focus by worrying about it. We will immediately see the opportunity to grow and seek ways to meet this new challenge.

Others will feel that rising to challenges is "too hard" or just "not worth it." We understand, grow, and become stronger individuals by accepting that new challenges are necessary for us to reach our full potential.

Others, for example, will see a challenge as just another indication that their idea will not work, was never a good idea anyway, is too hard, hasn't been done before, and therefore is impossible. We will see this as a way to augment our strategies. We will develop the confidence in ourselves and those on our team as we meet our challenges head-on, create plans, build stronger teams, and make a difference in the lives of others.

Others will say that there is an easier road to success. They will settle for less. They will deceive themselves into thinking that Life Masteries are easy to attain, rather than understanding that Life Masteries come from a series of daily successes and small but important triumphs. These successes build our character so we can dream big dreams and find true Life Masteries.

We understand that this attitude will help us to accomplish great things in our lives as well as the lives of those around us. When we get tired, run out of energy, and do not feel we can continue any longer on a given task, we remember that there is someone out there today that will need us tomorrow. The contributions you make, even in your struggles, are significant contributions to the people with whom you work and live. If you are unable to keep pursuing your dreams for yourself, keep working on the walls for someone else. After that wall of opportunity becomes a door, remember that someone in the future will thank you. You will make a difference in someone's life and possibly for all of eternity.


2. No Problems, Only Opportunities

Every day, events come into every one of our lives. Many of these events will seem like problems initially, and most individuals will worry about them. These events change their focus, which results in a loss of perspective. Those who want Life Masteries in every area of their life will apply the following:
We have no problems in our life; we only have opportunities! When a challenge comes into any area of our life, our first response is that this is a great opportunity that is necessary to attain Life Masteries. Some challenges are easier to find than others, but in all challenges we are determined to find the opportunity. This is such a powerful principle that it will change every area of your life if applied daily to every situation. Most individuals "shut down" because they think of challenging situations as problems and worry. Their minds, creativity, energy, and enthusiasm shut down. Those that understand Life Masteries take the opposite approach to living.

When you have a challenge, think clearly and take action. You can probably think of many stories of individuals who have experienced events which most people
would consider tragic, but they turned those tragedies into life-changing events. YOU, TOO, CAN DO THAT! It takes some practice; it will not be easy initially, but if you persist and work as a team, you will see your whole life change as a result of this new attitude!


3. Ideal or Nothing

So many times in life, we begin with the best of intentions, but for some reason, we don't realize our goals. In many situations, we could get started, but we wait and end up either doing nothing or implementing our plans too late. Because we wait for the perfect conditions and the best results, we miss an unseen window of opportunity that may have revolutionized our business.We set out to do the best and often end up doing nothing. Implement those great ideas today!You can always start with something less than what you believe is best and then make it better. Do not procrastinate, but rather eliminate excuses.Do not be a perfectionist and wait for more information or details to avoid mistakes; everything will be all right.Do not worry if everyone will be happy. They probably won't, but because we are a team, we will work it out for the benefit of everyone.Do not worry about everything being fun. The fun of success only comes when your ideas are implemented. A word of caution: Do not let new ideas push out the great ideas already at work.Do not worry about losing control. Sometimes when things seem out of control, there is a breakthrough just waiting to occur. By implementing ideas quickly, you will complete them faster and more efficiently. Long-term control will be maintained. A word of caution: Do not let the objective become more important than the people involved.


4. Time/Priorities

How many times do we hear someone say he doesn't have enough time to do something? How many times do we catch ourselves saying that very statement? It is easy to fall into the trap and deceive ourselves into thinking that we do not have enough time, but when you think about it, we all have the same amount of time each day. To be perfectly truthful, it's not that we do not have enough time for an activity; that activity simply is not a high enough priority.Try saying that the next time you "don't quite get to" something. Painful, isn't it? We fight against admitting that something or someone wasn't a high enough priority because we have so conditioned ourselves to believe that it's time's fault, not ours.

We all have 24 hours in the day. We all have the time to do many things. The truth is that anything we do is a higher priority than what we don't do. We may not do the things we enjoy most. We may not do the things we feel we should, but we do complete what we feel is most important.

Break Your Pattern! For ten days, determine that you will not say, "I do not have enough time." Commit to saying, "It is not a high enough priority." You might want to be careful about who you say that to, because often people struggle when they hear this truth. For the first few days it will feel awkward, but after a while you will begin to feel better about yourself and others. Why? We are designed to perform our best when we are truthful with ourselves and others.
Speak The Truth! When we hear ourselves speak the truth, we may feel bad initially, and then guilty. If the guilt is justified, then we need to change our priorities. Feeling the guilt initially will force you to examine your priorities carefully and decide where they should be. Once you get the hang of it, you will often determine that certain things really aren't a high enough priority, and you'll feel good about yourself. Since we deceive ourselves about time on a daily basis, we do not give our bodies and minds the opportunity to be free of unfounded guilt feelings.Feel Good About Yourself! The principle of truthfulness in this area of our life allows us to feel confident about what we do and to recognize that we will not complete everything we would like to. It also frees us to make certain we get to the great things in life. Take action today; speak the truth, and feel good about yourself and others.



5. Thinking Not Knowing

What's the first response people give if you ask them what they think about a particular subject, topic, or thought you have had? In many situations, that response is, "I don't know." Think about that response for a minute. What does it really mean?Does it mean that they have no thoughts on the matter? Does it mean that they have learned nothing in life that's applicable to this situation? Does it mean they haven't learned any principles that would give them the ability to discuss the matter? Does it mean that they know something but want to withhold it from you because they do not like you?No, it usually does not mean any of the above. It usually means that either they have not listened to you or that they are too lazy to think.Break the pattern! It is easy for each of us to fall into this cop-out trap, and we should break the pattern. How do we do that? When someone tries to get by with "I don't know," say the following and it will almost always break the pattern: "I didn't ask what you knew, I asked what you thought. If you don't think, just tell me you don't think." That may sound harsh, but it will break his pattern.Some people might "get smart" later on and respond, "OK...I don't think." You can come back by saying, "You have a brain to think, so start THINKING!" If those you are supervising say this, say one of two things depending on the situation. You might say, "You know enough principles that I am very confident that you do have some thoughts. Please talk to me when you gather your thoughts on this matter." A more radical response would be, "You get paid to think, not to know, so I would highly recommend that you start thinking." Either of these will help the individual to break the pattern and start contributing to the team.Beginning today, rely more on thinking and less on knowing. Reaching beyond your dreams will come a great deal easier.


6. Great vs. Good - Setting GREAT goals and sometimes only getting good results

At his seminars, Bill Gothard often says, "What is the biggest enemy to greatness? It is doing good things." That's a powerful concept, isn't it?We so often settle for good things and miss the great things in life. We have found that each day bring 1,000 things you want to do, 2,000 things others want you to do, and 10,000 things you could be doing. And most of the time they are all good things. Keep focused on the great things. Do not allow a good idea to keep you from accomplishing your great actions. Do not settle for good when something great is attainable!We too often get caught up in the details of life or start so many new things that we do not follow through on the great actions. Sometimes we do not even take the time to know the difference between the good and the great things.Consistency is a very important principle to learn. The great actions are often disguised as hard work or things that we normally do not enjoy. With consistency, those actions will turn into the strengths that will help you reach beyond your dreams in every area of your life. Once you start something, finish it. Do not allow yourself to abandon something you do consistently for some great new idea.

Staying consistent in a few things will give us better results than inconsistency in many things. You can accomplish more when you consistently apply good ideas than when you inconsistently apply a number of great ideas.


7. The Lucky 13 Rule

Have you ever made a mistake that you knew would cost you a great deal of money? Have you ever said something to someone that cost you a relationship? Have you ever met someone who had a friend who introduced you to someone who changed your life?The contacts we make today, the individual we are pleasant to in a "chance" encounter, or our friendly tone with someone over the phone can change our lives forever. When we do something good for someone else, that good deed will often produce another good deed, and another, and another, and will often come back to us multiplied. The things that come back to us in the biggest manner are often some of the smallest actions we take on a daily basis.When we take positive action, that action will produce two more positive actions, then those actions produce other positive actions, and before you know it, you have 13 positive actions based on one small action. If you never take that first step, you will miss out on 13+ actions that may affect your life and career.

Most people are concerned about the mistakes they make that they're aware of. What they should be concerned about is the missed opportunities, because they fail to understand the importance of taking positive action on a consistent basis. Since none of us knows when an opportunity will present itself, we need to practice making the best choice as each opportunity presents itself so that it becomes instinctive.


8. Value in Life (Values, choices / consequences, and congruencies)

We all have things in life that we value. Some people value one thing more than others, but we all have things we value. Whatever your values are, it is important to understand them fully and make sure your actions are congruent with them. Your values may be different than another person's, but we all must live according to our values to have true happiness and fulfillment. The following values are a sample of what your "list" might look like:#1 - Your personal relationship with God
#2 - Your relationship with your spouse
#3 - Your relationship with your children
#4 - Your career
#5 - Your church and community
Now, your values may be different than these, but it is important to understand the principles behind each one of your own values, because they can be applied to anyone's life. It can be relatively easy to see success in any one of these areas, but true success in life is seeing success in all areas. Know your priorities, live your values every day, have a plan, and make sure your daily actions fit into your overall life values.
Do your daily activities tie into what you value in life? What are some steps that can help determine what our values are? The following ideas will assist you in determining what you value:
* Ask yourself what you would like others to think, feel, and say about you when you are not around.
* If you have children, into what type of people would you like them to develop?
* In 5, 10, 20, 50 years, what will your life be like if you continue to do the things you are doing today?
* Do I believe in an afterlife, or is that something about which I need to find more information?
* Am I making a difference in the lives of those with whom I come in contact daily and with those I love?
* Am I happy with the results I have achieved in my life up to today?
If you are not sure of any one of the answers, please give Synergy Solutions a call (888/230-2300 begin_of_the_skype_highlighting              888/230-2300      end_of_the_skype_highlighting), and they can provide information and ideas that have proven to be very successful to people all around the world. Understand the values that create Life Masteries, learn what is necessary, work hard, work with others, and then you will see true fulfillment in all areas of your life. Good Choices = Good Consequences; Bad Choices = Bad Consequences.Individuals that see success understand that there are natural, foundational laws for all human beings. They understand that good choices yield good consequences and bad choices yield bad consequences. It is as strong a natural law as the law of gravity. Individuals who try to get around the law see the same results as those who do not know the law and innocently violate it. They reap the bad consequences.
Have you ever met people who frequently experience bad things? In most situations, it is because they made bad choices at some point in their lives. Unfortunately, this law does not always work like the law of gravity, where the consequences are immediate. It can take years before the consequences, whether good or bad, come to fruition. It will often take three to six months to see the results of consistently good actions. Understand what you value and make daily choices that will help achieve true fulfillment in every area of your life.


9. Roller Coaster Mystery

Many individuals struggle with follow-through. We find people all over the world who have great intentions but do not seem to be able to follow through. This could be in their careers, personal lives, families, relationships with friends, or any number of other areas. Fortunately, we're going to explain the reasons behind this truth and give you some suggestions for stemming its effects in your life.

The following graph can be used to show how many people approach life. We will use building a relationship as an example. This principle works with any area of one's life or career.

1. Principle: We start out strong and get poor results.
Action: Guy tries to impress girl.
Results: Girl doesn't like him.

2. Principle: Keep doing the right actions, and your results will improve over time.
Action: Guy treats her nicely and is sensitive to her feelings.
Results: Girl starts to like guy, and they fall in love.

3. Principle: When we get good results, our actions start to decrease.
Action: Couple gets married and guy starts to focus on providing for his family and on self-fulfillment.
Results: Girl starts to feel guy doesn't care; relationship starts to deteriorate.

4. Principle: Results are low, so efforts/actions are increased.
Action: Guy realizes relationship is in trouble and starts to focus more efforts on girl.
Results: Relationship starts to improve.

5. Principle: We see improvement, start to lose focus, and decrease actions.
Action: Guy reduces successful actions and relationship starts to suffer.
Results: Whole cycle starts over and relationship continues to have wide ups and downs.

These cycles apply in every area of our lives. When we maintain consistency in our actions, we maintain consistency in the results we receive. Applying this principle provides Life Mastery.

10. Stewardship (The more we do for others the more we personally gain) There is a story in a famous book that goes something like this...

The owner of multiple companies gave three managers three separate businesses to run. The manager left the country for awhile, and upon returning, he set up a meeting with each of the three managers to review their progress. The first manager was given a ten million-dollar company to run; he worked very hard, took some wise risks, implemented strong values throughout the company, and was loyal to the owner. The manager had turned the company into a twenty million-dollar company while the owner had been away. Obviously, the owner was very happy and rewarded the wise manager handsomely.
The second owner was given a five million-dollar company to run; he worked extremely hard, taking appropriate risks, and he turned that company into a ten million-dollar company. The owner rewarded this manager with a great bonus and additional responsibility.

The third owner was given a one million-dollar company to run; he was fearful of losing money for the owner, so he took no risks and applied moderate effort to maintain the company. The owner was extremely upset and told the foolish manager that he would have been better off selling the company and putting the money in a bank so it would at least earn interest. What do you think happened to the third company as well as the manager? The owner did something that would not be politically correct by today's standards; he took the third company and gave it to the first manager to run. In today's environment, the third manager probably would have been excused by the attitude that it wasn't a very big company to start with, the position he'd been put in wasn't fair, and he hadn't been given the necessary resources. More than likely, that manager today would be given more resources and/or a less aggressive agenda.

We are all given gifts. Our gifts grow in value and effectiveness when we share them with others. If we do not use these gifts at home, in the workplace, with clients and coworkers, or in the community, we can lose them to others. What gifts do you possess? Are your talents being effectively utilized within your company? Are you sharing your gifts with others less fortunate in the community? If you are not, others will lose; but yours will be the biggest loss. Share your gifts today. Share them often! For those who sow generously will reap a generous harvest.

11. Focus: Get better results with less effort

If you were to ask 100 people who earn $100,000 or more a year if they would like to earn a lot more money, most would say no. Why? Because they equate earning more money with spending more time in the office, and, more than likely, they already are working too many hours. It can be so easy to think that the only way to make a great deal more money is to work more hours. Actually, it may be easier to earn more money by working fewer hours! By applying multiple natural principles, we can do less work and earn more money.Most of us have heard of the 80/20 law. This natural law says that 80% of one's results will come from 20% of one's effort. Most people who are experienced in management or sales will understand how true this natural law really is. By using tools designed to measure results and productivity, we can effectively identify which actions are the most productive and focus more
effort on them.
By using specialized tools, we can identify which actions to increase and which ones to decrease. Combining this law with law #6 (Great vs. Good), we will focus on the great actions, clients, prospects, employees, relationships, etc. and get much better results with less effort.If your company is looking for people that have strong values, a hard work ethic, and loyalty, please consider sponsoring a local high school. The best way to get great employees is to help build them.


12. Never Quit: No mistakes, just learning opportunities

There are only two ways to fail in life:
1. Fail to try.
2. Fail to learn from one's efforts.

This principle, when tied into principle #1 and #2, becomes even more powerful. (#1 is "Walls of Opportunity"; #2 is "No Problems--Only Opportunities".) So many people view challenges as "problems," failing to see the great opportunities.
Many situations in life are like running a race. You can never cross the finish line if you don't finish the race. That's 100% completion; not 99.9%. Some of life's greatest successes have come right after we feel like we've failed, don't they?

Never be afraid of trying something new. What is the worst that could happen? You may not get the results you hoped for, but you probably will learn more if you have the proper attitude. Always learn from what you are doing. If you try to go over the "wall of opportunity" and it doesn't work, does it make sense to keep trying it the same way over and over again? If we always do what we have always done, we will always get what we have always gotten.

If something isn't working, look at what's worked in the past (or ask someone else what has worked for them), make the necessary adjustments, and then try it again. Be encouraged that the harder the task, the better the reward. We all know success stories of people who almost quit but then chose to keep after it, reaping great results for being tenacious. Do you ever hear about the individual who was 99.99% of the way there and then quit right before he was about to see success? Whatever you do, don't quit.

Sometimes just talking with someone about your challenges can "turn on the light." Always try, always learn from your efforts!



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